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6 Universal Signs of a Healthy Relationship

by Steve Arterburn

Leo Tolstoy opened his famous story Anna Karenina with one of the most quoted lines in literature: Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

Let’s think a little about that. Is it true? Are all happy families alike?

And if it is true (Tolstoy was, after all, one of the most astute students of human nature who ever lived), then does that mean every healthy relationship of any kind is the same as any other of that same kind? Does it mean that a healthy relationship between any particular father and son is substantially the same as any other between a father and son? Are the dynamics inherent in a healthy relationship between a husband and wife essentially equal to the same sort experienced between any other happily married couple?

Is love really the same, wherever it manifests?

I think it is. As individual people, we can make a mess of our lives and relationships in ways so unique to us personally that no one could possibly imitate or duplicate. I can manipulate my child, or undermine my wife’s confidence, in a way that is inimitable.

No one can insult me like my own father; no one can hurt me like my own mother. No one can get under one’s skin like her sibling. No one can disappoint a parent like his or her child.

We dysfunction as we live—as separate, distinct individuals.

And yet, we can rejoice! For we love as God loves us. Filled with the love of the Lord, we love others in the only way love ever acts.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:4–7)

That is true for every kind of love, between every kind of person. And that prompts us to look at the universal signs of a healthy relationship.

And that is
As I See It
Roy A. Lamont

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A Merry Heart

Proverbs 17:22 King James

 I thought we could all use a

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Version (KJV)

22 A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. 

King James – Proverbs 17:22: “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine; but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”

I thought we could all use a chuckle today. so, a few

quick ones.
What can you hold in your right hand that you can not hold in your left hand?…Your left elbow….
What do you get when you cross a centipede with a parrot?…..A ‘walkie-talklie’.
And that is ” As I See It”
Roy A. Lamont

The gift of laughter

Con Artist

Con Artist

What does that name suggest? It means someone who will cheat you and take advantage of your ignorance or gullibility.

The term comes from the word ‘confidence’.  People who are able to gain your confidence and convince you that they are honest and are offering you a chance of a lifetime. What was the ‘first con’?  It was the ‘serpent’ in the Garden of Eden.  Never having heard a lie before Eve accepted as true the lies of satan the serpent. He has never stopped telling lies and continues to this very day.

As I was walking and praying on my deck today I was experiencing a sense of guilt about my efforts at praying for others and about what I thought were personal failures of mine. It then occurred to me that there was about me a heaviness of spirit. I realized that there was indeed a spirit of heaviness about me and it was either satan or one or more of his demons attacking me. It made all the sense in the world. If I am in the presence of satan or his demons I would certainly be affected by them. It was they who were planting these oppressive thoughts in my mind. I was in the wrong company.  Scripture tell us to ‘….”put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness” Isaiah. 61:3

When I choose to think about my heavenly Father, my Lord Jesus and the Holy Spirit of God and praise them for all of their blessings upon me then I am in the right company and their nearness lifts my spirit and blesses me. Further confirmation is found in Philippians 4:8

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. ”
Right thinking establishes both the mind and the spirit. We have it in our power to control our attitude. We choose the life we live. It always been our choice. Let’s choose God’s way and enjoy life.

Let’s choose God’s way and enjoy life.

For As I See It,

I am Roy A. Lamont

Epiphany

It was an epiphany moment in slow-motion. What started it, I don’t know. As I often do when thinking, I was walking on my deck and being thankful for this lovely home and gorgeous view in the mountains. Perhaps it was because a new year had begun, and as many do, I was reminiscing about the past year and life in general. Much has to do with foscus. In our youth it seems our hormones dictate where we focus our thoughts and attention. That’s nature at work. The preservation instinct of our species is in full force. We gladly comply. As the years pass we shift our focus, just a little, and allow for friendships to enter our thoughts and our life. Then too, there is our profession that requires our attention and we manage to blend the two. Life moves on and eventually we find ourself at the autumn of our life. If we are blessed we transit to this next stage with our spouse and enjoy our life. If we were not blessed, we find that adversity has caught up with us and we face a life we were not expecting, nor prepared for. It is now when we see that friendships are crucial to our life. We have always been social animals and the lack of this social activity can have a definite effect on our thought process and also upon our physical and mental health. There is far less need for the physical relationship than when we were hormone and libido motivated and find that now the only physical contact we desire is friendship, conversation, a dinner companion and someone to share and laugh with.

Not to dismiss the pleasure of the intimate physical contact which is wonderful if it presents itself but now is not the primary focus. It is the sharing, talking, and discovering gifts and talents you had not seen before in your friends that now adds so much joy to life. Slowly as this epiphany moment began to slowly reveal itself, a new appreciation for what was ahead for me began to fill me with a genuine feeling of true liberation. I was no longer dominated by my youth and hormones but by all the beauty and opportunity that life and friendship still has to offer.

I am Roy A.Lamont

and that is “As I See It”

Love Letter

The following is a very ancient love letter I found on the Internet and thought it should be shared with all those whose heart has ever burned and yearned for this kind of love.

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Here is how the letter reads:

To Won’s Father

June 1, 1586

You always said, “Dear, let’s live together until our hair turns gray and die on the same day.” How could you pass away without me? Who should I and our little boy listen to and how should we live? How could you go ahead of me?

How did you bring your heart to me and how did I bring my heart to you? Whenever we lay down together you always told me, “Dear, do other people cherish and love each other like we do? Are they really like us?” How could you leave all that behind and go ahead of me?

I just cannot live without you. I just want to go to you. Please take me to where you are. My feelings toward you I cannot forget in this world and my sorrow knows no limit. Where would I put my heart in now and how can I live with the child missing you?

Please look at this letter and tell me in detail in my dreams. Because I want to listen to your saying in detail in my dreams I write this letter and put it in. Look closely and talk to me.

When I give birth to the child in me, who should it call father? Can anyone fathom how I feel? There is no tragedy like this under the sky.

You are just in another place, and not in such a deep grief as I am. There is no limit and end to my sorrows that I write roughly. Please look closely at this letter and come to me in my dreams and show yourself in detail and tell me. I believe I can see you in my dreams. Come to me secretly and show yourself. There is no limit to what I want to say and I stop here.

Love truly is an amazing and timeless thing. This goes to show that humans have loved the same way we do now for centuries past. The fact we can feel her pain over four centuries later since the letter was written is truly remarkable.

Via lettersofnote.com

Your Personal Time Machine

The other day I was, as usual, walking and thinking about ceretain events in my life.
As I was walking around, my home in the forest, I was looking at the many places I  have walked with my wife and played with all of our many pets. I started to become sad as I thought of their ‘passing’ away.
It was then that a thought came to me. I had spent many years with them and had enjoyed their company. I could recall many, many pleasant times with them. Why then was I only thinking about that one day out of so many beautiful and wonderful days? Wasn’t this a disservice to them? Surely, I have much to be thankful for. I had their companionship,  their love and their many looney tooney, comical episodes to remember.
I especially remember, too, that on the 8th of this month it will be four years since my lovely wife Linda  passed away.
We have the power to choose what thoughts we will entertain and what thoughts we will dismiss. I must remember that they all would  rather be recalled in memory of the joyous times we had together and not that last day when we parted.
I truly believe that one day we will all be together again.
When we recall our memories we are actually bringing them back into existence and they are as real as anything else. Philosopher Rene Descarte said, ” Cogito, ergo sum”,   “I think, therefore I am”. This is ‘self awareness’, this is existence.
As we recall the past we are actually creating an opportunity to relive any moment of the past once again. Our ability to remember is our own personal time machine. Shouldn’t we recall the pleasant memories rather than the hurtful ones?
As in many things, the choice is ours. Now, I too, must practice this.
And  that is,
As I See It
Roy A. Lamont

Last One Standing

Last One Standing

What happens when you mix fire and alcohol? Yes, you get a bigger fire; as when you respond to a caustic remark with anger. The sum of two evils always equals a greater evil.
After many experiences I finally learned that when someone is angry and ‘spouting’ off at you do not interrupt them but let them vent and exhaust themselves of their anger.
Just nod your head as if agreement and say nothing.
To do otherwise is as if you were to attempt to put your hand into an erupting volcano. That would be a bad and foolish move on your part. Better to wait until it has ceased erupting and cooled down.

The one who is ‘erupting’ without being interrupted will realize at the end of their rant just how foolish they must have appeared. Embarrassed by their conduct they are at a great emotional disadvantage and if they receive a conciliatory or apologetic word from you they usually are quick to accept a truce or peaceful solution. You both are the better for it. This way there is left not ‘one’ standing but two.

Proverbs 29:11 – A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise [man] keepeth it in till afterwards.
Proverbs 21:23 – Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
Proverbs 6:2 – Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.
Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called sons of God.

Should you ever encounter a contentious person remember that a soft word will often turn away wrath.

For As I See It

I am,
Roy A. Lamont